Sharing messages of healing and hope and helping others do the same.
Books
Just this
Poetry lovers, spiritual seekers: fleeting moments captured in haiku, a collection of meditations on learning how to be a spirit in human form.
The Hungry Ghost
There is an answer to the emotional, physical and spiritual horrors of food addiction. Based on my personal victory over food addiction and obesity.
Work with me
Writer coaching
Coaching is done with scheduled strategy talks, email support and developmental editing. Packages are custom tailored and priced according to individual needs. No tricks, no hidden costs, no surprises! Just 30-plus years of publishing expertise coupled with warm, friendly, down-home support.
Together we will achieve your writing goals. Past clients have become bloggers at Huffington Post, put their products in front of editors at prestigious magazines, published novels and built out their media platforms.
Spiritual Coaching
I offer active listening, gentle questions and, sometimes, tailored suggestions based on your own unique story, to help you on your journey. We can work one-on-one or in groups.
In private one-on-one meetings, clients feel safe to explore their inner world, their search for meaning and hope. They talk, I listen and reflect. No directing, ever! Always, healing power of lovingkindness, share.
Coaching is done with scheduled strategy talks, email support and developmental editing. Packages are custom tailored and priced according to individual needs. No tricks, no hidden costs, no surprises! Just 30-plus years of publishing expertise coupled with warm, friendly, down-home support.
Recent posts
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Where’s the Love?
How are you at receiving, really taking in, the love and abundance around you? In the clamor of everyday life, can you feel the great joy that is your natural state? Me, I sometimes struggle. I know in my head that I am loved and respected. I have a beautiful family, gorgeous friends, lovely colleagues, several spiritual communities. Love is all around, but I often can’t feel it. Old brain training and all—what we do and don’t get in childhood becomes the patterns of our brain in adulthood. It’s a fact. But it’s not our deepest, fullest truth. Which is…
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Bad, Bad Me
Low self esteem. Lack of confidence. Hero or zero. Egomaniac with no self esteem. Fraud syndrome. To the world, I look pretty good on paper. I’ve even been told by mentors of my editing and coaching practice to tone down my qualifications in certain circles because I was scaring people. In all areas of life, many people seem to like me. In my personal life, many do love me, seriously, deeply, truthfully. And yet. Deep in my chest lived the ugly and sure sense that I was bad, bad, bad. Not just human-bad, with greed, small-mindedness, selfishness, venality, carelessness. Not…
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The Day I Unfriended My Mother
A bunch of years ago, someone important in my life, a mentor, did me dirty. The details don’t matter. The consequences of her betrayal were minimal, but seeing a side of her that was toxic to our interaction and potentially much more so in the future, I turned my back and walked away. Life went on, until she sent me a friend request on Facebook. Without thinking, I confirmed it. And answered a direct message from her. At this point I felt a bone-chilling surge of regret. Through the mindless compulsion to play the FB Like Me-Like You game, I’d…
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8 Ways to Help Your Favorite Food Addict
A helpful ghost story: A nice man, at his wife’s request, ordered my book The Hungry Ghost: How I Ditched 100 Pounds and Came Fully Alive for her Christmas present. With the order he wrote, “It’s so hard for me as a man to know how to help her. Do you have any advice?” That inspired some suggestions for how to support someone tormented by overweight: Listen without interrupting. When people stop any bad habit, compulsion or addiction, they have a whole lot of feelings with nowhere to go. They may need to release that energy by talking about it. Show…
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You probably don’t want to hear this
Imagine this: A Thanksgiving that doesn’t end with me in hideous pain from a super-stretched stomach. Where I don’t end up so sluggish from sugar that all I crave is for everyone to get the hell out of my face so I can get to my nap. I’m about to have my 24th one of those holidays. Through some grace I still can’t explain, all those years ago I started eating healthy every damn day of my life, come hell, high water, birthday, Thanksgiving, pushy hosts, or my own inner pull towards kinds and quantities of foods that were deadly for…
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Educate Your Soul
How are you at receiving, really taking in, the love and abundance around you? In the clamor of everyday life, can you feel the great joy that is your natural state? Me, not so good. I know in my head that I am loved and respected, but I often can’t feel it. Old experiences taught me that vulnerability is dangerous, and I am still recovering from the life-long habit of numbing myself out as protection from hurt. This is frustrating not only for me (leaving me deprived and lonely and set up for some type of binge), but for people who…
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Your Well-Fed Ghost
This is the draft intro to my next book, The Well-Fed Ghost: TK Ways to Nourish Your Hungry, Hungry Heart. I really like it. So I decided to share it. Love to know what it means to you, how it strikes you, what your experience is in satisfying your soul needs. The yearning to connect, to belong, to be fulfilled, to feel substantial, we all have it. It’s universal. It’s inborn. It’s the human condition. All the same, that deep ache can be mystifying. Painful. Confusing. Baffling. Even infuriating. But while such a powerful need can be difficult to accept and manage,…
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My Aromatic Adventures
What smells so good? That was my question the first time I ventured into my friend Wendy Bright-Fallon’s office in Red Bank, New Jersey. It was a lemon. From a diffuser, a wee humidifier type thingy shaped like an egg that was gently wafting this scent. For the next two hours that scent went straight to my head, in the nicest, sweetest way possible. Wendy and a small group of us were meeting for some gentle networking and support. That scent added so much to the room and the meeting, beyond my ability to even understand. Which is a good thing.…
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5 Secrets of Sustainable Weight Loss
Please don’t envy me. People do sometimes. I can see it in their eyes. But envy is a distancing sort of thing that denies the envied her humanity and the envier her own possibilities. Instead, consider stepping into my shoes for a moment. Yes, I did lose 100 pounds 20 years ago. Yes, I’ve kept it off all that time. But to this day I don’t know why when the doctor told me I needed blood pressure medicine, that then and there I committed to a new level of self-care regarding weight and food. The only thing that explains it…
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Winter, Here I Come!
I love the golden light of fall and the poignancy of the long, slow slide into the dark, cold days and nights of winter. It’s a latency time for Mother Nature, a time to rest and restore. For me, it’s also time of feeling shut in, disrupted from nurturing routines of long walks in the park and daily solitude and meditation in my backyard gazebo. Last winter’s biting cold and relentless storms were so awful that I resolved to go into this one better prepared. Essential was to find a space for meditation and prayer. The dining room is nice…